Laura Bergells is Maniactive

Laura Bergells is Maniactive

Laura Bergells  //  More than PowerPoint: I blog about the art + creativity of presentation. http://budurl.com/maniactive

Aug 22 / 2:42pm

Dating in the Era of FaceBook

Overheard coffee shop conversation between two thirtysomething ladies dressed in professional office attire:

Lady 1: So, Chad and I have been dating for just over a month. I like him a lot. I think things are going well, but why hasn't he friended me on FaceBook yet?

Lady 2: That's not good.

Lady 1: I know, right? What am I supposed to do?

Lady 2: Dump him.

Lady 1 was aghast that her friend advised dumping, and asked for her reasoning. Lady 2 said she wouldn't ever consider dating guys unless they were "friends" first. It's her way of vetting, of keeping tabs on his thoughts and feelings, to gauge whether he's a consistent, quality individual.

"You always, always need to be friends first before you start dating," she chided her friend.

As a Baby Boomer, I found this exchange wryly charming.

"You need to be friends before dating" was something my mother or grandmother might have said 30 years ago. Lady 2 seems to have taken this advice to a whole different level!

What's your FaceBook dating policy?